Low self esteem ----> Over Suspicion ---> Jealousy
Jealousy has been one of the huge factor for some sweet relationship that happen around us to break down.
According to one of the studies conducted in US, jealousy still happens even though we are living in so called “free thinking centuries”
And so on, jealousy happens caused by over suspicion and also by doubting your partner. When your partner return your messages/calls late or less, you will tend to think that they do not want to care about us anymore. Or else, for the even worst case, you might be thinking that they are hiding from us as well.
This are the early symptoms for worst jealousy case to happen. When suspicion and doubting happen, it makes us to question our partner, in a harsh way. With this, it creates a communication barrier that further lead to a communication breakdown.
When you know yourself tends to be jealous, or even tries to doubt every single action of your partner, try to think on the positive side of it. For example, if he/she returns your call late, maybe she is busy at work or she is in a bad mood. The reason of she doesn’t want to talk to you is so that it won’t influence your mood as well. FYI, you are the key support for your partner.
Jealousy happens when you feel that the your partner’s friend are more good looking, more capable, more rich, or even they spend more time with your partner rather than you are.
But, wait. Even though they are more capable than you are, or they posses the look of TOM CRUISE, or even LAM FOONG, try to boost your self esteem up. “Hey, even though he/she is more leng zai/leng lui than me, but, my gf/bf still loves me” Try to think this way, somehow, it help for me.
On the capability part, we could not judge one’s capability just by looking at what type of car that he/she or what kind of outfit that he/she was wearing. We can’t predict the future, who knows, somehow maybe you or even me might be the front cover for TIMES MAGAZINE.
How to kill jealousy/doubt/over suspicion
- Always, i mean ALWAYS, think on the better side. When i say better side, don’t have such thinking “Haiz, she/he don’t want to reply my message, she/he sure flirt with other girl/guys de lar”
- Whenever you wanted to get jealous about something, think back on all the sweet thing or even the sweet moments that both of you had created. It help to cool down your heart.
- If step 2 can’t help, when you tend to get jealous, try to do something that you like, e.g. pool, racing, computer games and etc..etc..
- This is important, don't jump to conclusion. You must know, when you jump to conclusion without understanding the other side, this means that you are accusing blindly.
- If you simply jump to conclusion, even god also can’t give you a helping hand. It’s too late for sorry.
That’s all..
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cheers..
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